Why Not To Date Co-Workers

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On the downside, you work a double with them tomorrow

It is that time of year.  Love or at least heavy lust is in the air.   That means just one thing in the restaurant business.  It is too hot to sit on the patio.  Well that and co-workers are starting the annual mating ritual.  At the most recent count, there are six confirmed couples at my restaurant.  I was discussing this with some co-workers when someone said, “hey, you should write a blog about that.”  I had pondered it before, but never thought there was much to cover.  My opinion is simple and based on a great deal of experience.  Dating co-workers is a horrible idea.  My friend disagreed and offered to write the counter-point.  So today we kick off a two part series on dating co-workers.

I am a child of the 80s and was raised on John Hughes movies.  The hopeless romantic streak runs strong in me.  I have been in this business for 15 years and of course I have dated co-workers.  I have seen 15 years worth of work couples and even been in a few of their weddings.  I have seen co-workers have babies.  I have seen co-workers divorce. My opinion is still clear though, don’t date your co-workers.

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How To Flirt With Your Server

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As a single man in his thirties, I can attest to the fact that it is difficult to meet people in a modern world.  It is tough to meet people in a highly cynical and technological society.  Dating co-workers is wrought with pitfalls and in social settings people move in intimidating packs.  As your social circles begin to fill with spouses and children, not even parties are safe places to approach people.  This often leads to taking advantage of any opportunity to engage someone in conversation as a chance to flirt.  Inevitably this leads those on a search for a soul mate (or something less profound) to flirt with their server.

Over the years I have seen this happen countless times.  A vast majority of these attempts fail.  I have seen everything from bringing flowers (fail) to large group serenades (epic fail) result in embarrassing disaster.  I also have heard tales of success. I have witnessed co-workers giddily gossiping about the handsome man who gave them their number.  While flirting with a server generally results in failure, it occasionally succeeds.  This made me wonder what the keys to success were.

As a single man in his thirties, I admit that I am no expert on the topic.  Did I mention that both of the fails above were mine?  This is why I consulted a random sampling of some of Kansas City’s most attractive waitresses to find an answer.  Those that didn’t think this was a thinly veiled attempt to flirt with them gave me some incredible feedback.  So in an attempt to share this information with the masses and provide a slightly more interesting than normal blog post, I share with you the “fails” and “wins” of flirting with a server.

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